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#97100 - 05/02/08 07:03 AM
Re: Time for a change or time to change something?
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BlankKeys
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Registered: 04/09/08
Posts: 257
Loc: New York
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Excellent question, Trops. Same thing I've been asking myself for 20 years this month. Hopefully, things are going to change drastically this summer - it's the main reason I'm working 4 jobs. 
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#97110 - 05/02/08 10:59 AM
Re: Time for a change or time to change something?
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Wordcraftr
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Registered: 02/11/08
Posts: 65
Loc: Midwest coast
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My husband is great along those lines. He is constantly telling me I don't have to do as much as I'm doing. I have the luxury of downloading as much or as little work as I want. I am fortunate in that my income is not the one we have to rely on.
But old habits die hard. I still have the perception that if I'm not at the grindstone, I don't deserve to breathe.
My husband does dishes almost every night. He's a great cook. He loves to garden with me. He doesn't clean or do laundry, but I don't mind laundry and I totally indulged myself by getting a cleaning lady.
And I try to get out every day and smell the roses.
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An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.
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#97117 - 05/02/08 12:45 PM
Re: Time for a change or time to change something?
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BlankKeys
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Registered: 04/09/08
Posts: 257
Loc: New York
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Good for you, Wordcraftr. Sounds like you found yourself a keeper! Maybe I'll be as lucky next time around. 
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#97232 - 05/04/08 04:09 PM
Re: Time for a change or time to change something?
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djmom
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Registered: 08/14/07
Posts: 28
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Thanks for all of your comments! I hit over 900 lines yesterday, and I took to heart the idea of working my job when I was supposed to be working instead of doing laundry. Before my shift, I had my son strip the bed and put the linens in the washer before he left to study for a major exam with my mother, who graciously offered to help him.
Even though my husband does not do much housework, I do feel blessed because he is good to run errands. Plus, he is sober and is honest, and he does encourage me and listen to me when I am discouraged. He is a hard worker too, and he keeps a job (or for now, 2 jobs). I trust him, which is more than some women can say about their husbands.
I do believe that time management is a big part of my problem. I have to work on prioritizing and making sure that focusing on work during my work time is a priority if I want to get us out of debt. I do, however, sometimes feel I am slighting my children as they hardly ever have time with me. They are at the age when they sometimes just need an ear to hear what they are feeling and going through, and I know that listening to them is important. I truly do appreciate all of your comments and suggestions. This is also the first time I have worked full-time since my children were born. I have worked part-time positions most of the time from their births, but balancing 40+ hours with family is really tough. I admire all the mothers who do it with small children, day care, etc. It tires me to think of working 8 hours, battling traffic, cooking dinner, bathing and feeding toddlers or younger, trying to fit in some "quality time" with hubby and kids, and falling into bed. I was lucky enough to only work part-time, but at a point found that my part-time job was really nearly full-time with all the "homework" I had to take home. The industry also changed, and I no longer was enjoying the work. One thing I can honestly say about MT is that I really love the work. Many people wake up and do a job they hate every day. I am also blessed that everyone here is willing to take the time to answer my posts. Thanks to everyone! 
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